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Thursday, January 29, 2015

The Surprising and Incredible Shock in the Movie Theater

I was so proud that my buttons almost burst off my shirt.  A moment that sent a scream of jubilation in a movie Theater last Tuesday night.

A moment that I hope that Dahlins, Blasers, Lennons, Tripps, Nargies, McClains, Cheryl Arnold Moseley, everyone on Harding Avenue, those from Venice - Chrys Atwood and those with roots in Santa Monica will also feel proud and might join together with me in a special moment of celebration.  

But first this...

I don't exactly know where I was on March 21, 1965 as a 9-year-old at Saint Mark's grammar school in Venice Ca.  It could have been I was being shot by my older brothers with needle-tipped arrows, shoved in a hamper, buried in a pit in the backyard or the day I accidentally discovered the alligator in the bath tub - I don't know. I don't know if it was one of the days I was dancing with my squishy black angel from Watts. I do know it was the year I was left behind at Salton Sea by my family and even more importantly than all of that - it was the first day of the Selma March in Alabama.

Martin Luther King had put out the call to clergy to join the March from Selma to Montgomery for the rights of black Americans to exercise their constitutional right to vote. Six nuns from the Midwest responded to King's call and joined the Martin Luther King in the march. It was the first time that vowed Catholic women had made so public a political statement, that changed the tide of public opinion. My Aunt Mary was one of those nuns who were later referred to as Sisters of Selma featured in a PBS special documentary. I am proud to say that my Aunt, Sister Mary Leoline, (native of Santa Monica - graduate of Saint Monica High School - who, during retirement lived in Venice at the Harding House) was the only nun to walk the entire March.  YES, SHE WAS THE ONLY NUN to march the entire way... THIS BRINGS ME TO THE JUBILATION SCREECH that disrupted the MOVIE THEATER... last Tuesday night!


A contingent group of my family in Southern California were watching "Selma" last Tuesday night, when at the end of the movie, a large cameo of original footage of Sister Mary Leoline -i.e. Aunt Mary - walks across the screen at the finish line of the Selma March in a single shot!

Pictured to the left is older brother, Kurt Dahlin, President and founder of Water Wells for Africa  (http://waterwellsforafrica.org) bringing the gift of water and life to 200,000 people every single day in Malawi.






This same excited gasp exuded from the four of us in Northern California who went to see the film the day before on Monday (with my mother-in-law, Sharon, who walked in the James Meredith march in 1966).



    
The same thing happened in Carmel California when my big sister, Mary Leoline (named after Aunt Mary), was watching the movie and also again in Las Cruses, New Mexico, when my little sister, Karin, was likewise shocked by the wonderful surprise of seeing this larger than life footage of our Aunt Mary "Bearing Witness for Change."  

VENICE - SANTA MONICA we have something to cheer about and can celebrate our rich heritage that made a significant impact in the world.

Here is the link to my Blog post that tells the Story of Aunt Mary.  

Stop racism: be an agent of change!  

Irene, my large squishy angel for nearly 20 years -  also worked on Harding avenue at the Blasers, the McClains, and at the Lennon house.

Good things can indeed come from Venice!






Monday, January 19, 2015

MLK Tribute: Watts Venice and Santa Monica

As a tribute to Martin Luther King Jr. I want to re-post a true story about how the pains of being the baby brother of the infamous Wolf Pack were mitigated each week by the Angel from Watts. Also, it is important to those of us from Venice and Santa Monica to know that right in our stomping ground... right  from our city thousands of miles from Selma and right from our very own Saint Monica high school we have a genuine but non-nondescript hero of the Civil Rights Movement... to be proud of (by clicking on the link to the right you can find that story here)...

Circled in red in the picture above is my Aunt Mary with Martin Luther King Jr. in the foreground of the "Selma March"



Now about the large, black lady from Watts who made her way to Harding ave in Venice several times a week for a couple decades; little did I know - she was God's gift to me - my angel. To be the youngest boy of a slightly demented pack of older brothers was a tough job - but someone had to do it.  It was my job to get Jalapenos rubbed all over my body, to be shoved in a hamper of death, to have my temples squeezed and knocked out. Who else would volunteer to be be electrocuted or buried in a pit or left behind at Salton Sea  - NOBODY in right mind.  But someone had to submit the the torture of sadistic older brothers left to themselves without adult supervision.   My mom had checked out, locked herself in her bedroom and our house was like an asylum run by the inmates where all sibling torture ran downhill and fell upon my plate... I had inherited this mantle from the brother before me and he in turn inherited this from the brother above him and so forth and so on.

The only problem was that by the time I came along there was a lot more of them to pick on me and they had perfected all means of inventive torture - never thought of before by the like of the Lennons, Nargies, Tripps, Blasers or anyone from Santa Monica.

The year was 1966 and a lot was going on in the world... besides the Beatles, long hair, hippies, hot rods and Vietnam War protest, there were much bigger stakes taking place in our country at this time. It was the ongoing tension about Race and equality and civil rights. After James Meredith was shot, Stockley Carmichael reacted and said,  "The three terms that black people in this country should learn at birth. One is 'White Supremacy,' one is 'New York Colonialism,' and one is 'Black Power.'"

No matter what white people say in denial... blacks were looked down upon as second class citizens. To a small degree (as much as a 5th grader could wrap his little mind around -  being the tormented baby brother) I understood their frustration. The pent-up need for equality and justice and the frustration of wanting to have a voice had become a ticking time-bomb.

In the seed bed of that context every Friday - an old, black woman took the bus from Watts to my house - on Harding Ave in Venice. Irene was large and squishy and beautiful. She spoke with a southern accent that was so thick, it was as though she was talking a different language. I couldn't quite make out everything she was saying... I couldn't make out most of what she was saying - yet despite my inability to understand her words, I knew she spoke a language that was not filled with hatred, malice or have any scorn... I did not have to flinch every time she rose her hand or fear that around every corner was some kind of diabolical trap. She was different...nice...maybe it was love I thought - the thing I longed for the word I wanted someone to say - TO ME! She didn't look down on me as though I was a second class citizen like my brothers did and she accepted me just the way I was - mosquito bites and all.

Irene came to de-clutter the chaotic mess in our house every Friday. By Friday morning it was always stinky mismatched socks that I had borrowed from the floor of my brother's room. I loved Fridays. I couldn't wait for the bell to ring at Saint Marks school - because I had an appointment with my squishy black angel.

When the bell went off at 2:50 in Sister Godzilla's classroom I darted for door...there was no time for idle chatter. I zigged and zagged in between the likes of Terry and Marilyn and Andrea and Theresa and "Ghering the Great" and Richard and Roberta.  I race home in those smelly mismatched socks. Poochie by beloved beagle laid smack dab in the middle of the warm asphalt and cheerfully wagged her tail when she saw me rounding the corner as I gave an abbreviated salute to the Blessed Virgin Mary in the Lennon Sister's front window.





If I hurried, he could beat everyone home. There would be:
No Tony
No Karl
No Bob
No Kris
No Pinky
No Kurt
No Kleghorn
No Chewy
No Erick
No Charlie
No Four Eyes
No Queen of the World
No Karin and no Mrs. D.                 I could have Irene all to himself.

Irene, had heroically and miraculously washed mountains of laundry...cleared one set of stairs, raked the living room and entry of its debris. she dug through millions of years of strata that had collected on the Formica surface of the kitchen table since last week and parted the red sea of Evening Outlook - the Catholic Tiding and the National Geographic magazines that had become an accumulated mountain since the last time she was here. 

The flag was still hoisted earlier this morning, reminding me to be on lookout for the rattlesnake that had escaped last night) and the instant I burst through the front door the foul-mouthed Mynah bird began cussing like a drunken sailor. I shook my finger at the bird and told it to shut up...I didn't have time for it's vulgar language.. This was FRIDAY!  
Tuning out the despicable creature I stretched my neck in the direction of the stairs and listened for the singing.

Ears trained like radar,I had heard it up on the third floor.  I could hear the sweet melody of  "Swing Low" It was one of Irene's favorites. "Swing low, sweet chariot, coming for to carry me home."  and it had become was one of my favorite songs. 

Rounding the third flight of stairs I could hear my beautiful Irene joyfully singing, “Well, I looked over Jordan and what did I see, coming for to carry me home? A band of angels coming after me, coming for to carry me home. Swing low, sweet chariot.” 

Feeling like a bird set free from its cage I bellowed, "I got-a wings, you got-a wings. All O' God's chillun got-a wings." I sang trying to overpower her - there'd be none of that. When I rounded the corner with my voice cracking, Irene dropped her broom and opened her arms like a mother bird welcoming a chick back to her nest. In I flew. Her arms smothered me like the protecting wings of that mother bird. I was safe. It was Friday and for 20 minutes everything was all right in the world as I made contact with the elusive concept of what I thought might be love.  

She talked! I listened - though I couldn't understand a word she said, I laughed when she laughed at the end of her sentences - hoping my timing was right. 

Irene grabbed my hands... we danced like the Prince and Princess at a Royal Ball and she said..."You got-a wings child...you got-wings."   

Yep! For some reason - I got Irene and she got me. The mynah bird squawked out profanities in the entry as we heard footsteps of the Wolf Pack returning home. I couldn't let them catch me with Irene so I jumped out the third floor window, slid down the galvanized plumbing pipe and  began to work on the fort out back with Tommy.  She finished her work...and took the bus back to Watts. TGIF!
   
In the profound words of Dr. Seuss, in his deep theological dissertation "Horton Hears a Who," just because people are different or smaller than you, remember what Horton learned, "A person is a person no matter how small."  and if I be so brazen as to add - no matter their color, their size of shape...filled with mosquito bites or mismatch socks -  As Irene taught me, we are all God's children and all equally deserving of equality, love, fairness and the occasional tender touch of kindness. 







Monday, July 15, 2013

It's Friday! For 20 minutes Everything Was All Right in the World.

                                                                   Ahoy Mates

Welcome to my journey, buckle up and hold on. The winds blow and the seas are getting rough, but not all is lost. I think of Walt Witman's Poem, O Captain...reflecting on the death of Abraham Lincoln. I can assure you, however, this story does not end tragically. Instead, Markie was able to sail his vessel into the safe and calm harbor of redemption despite the chaos that so violently blew against his fragile ship! A steady keel and a life preserver of hope was tossed to Captain Markie D on Fridays that kept him afloat. 
O CAPTAIN! my Captain! our fearful trip is done;
The ship has weather’d every rack, the prize we sought is won;
The port is near, the bells I hear, the people all exulting,
While follow eyes the steady keel, the vessel grim and daring:
    But O heart! heart! heart!
      O the bleeding drops of red
        Where on the deck my Captain lies,
          Fallen cold and dead.
There is a preacher that has a famous message titled, "It's Friday, but Sunday's Coming" and through the car pushing...and hamper stuffing...and milk sampling...and larvae picking...and temple squeezing...and sour dough fighting...and rattlesnake alerting...and stomach vomiting...and whacks across the knuckles by Sister Godzilla...and trips to the Sister Superior's office...and mom locked in her bedroom...and Wolf Pack conspiring - not all is lost for our brave little soul - for today was FRIDAY!
It was 1966 and a lot was going on in the world... besides The Beatles, long hair, hippies, hot rods and Viet Nam War protest, there were much bigger stakes taking place in our country at this time. It was the ongoing tension about Race and equality and civil rights. After James Meredith was shot, Stockley Carmichael reacted and said,  "The three terms that black people in this country should learn at birth. One is 'White Supremacy,' one is 'New York Colonialism,' and one is 'Black Power.'"

No matter what white people say...blacks were looked down upon as second class citizens. To a small degree (as much as a 5th grader could and more than most) Markie understood their frustration. They were the metaphorical Pitbull (blog post of June 29, 2013) (the little brother who was ready to explode and even strike the innocent, like Billy Lennon (though we all know  he wasn't the one who deserved it). That pent-up need for equality and justice and to finally have a voice had become a ticking time-bomb.
In the seed bed of that context every Friday - an old, black woman took the bus from Watts to the Dahlin house - she was large and squishy and beautiful. Irene spoke with a southern accent that was so thick, it was as though she was talking a different language. Barely anyone could make out what she was saying... yet despite Markie's inability to understand her words, he knew she spoke the language of love - the thing he longed for.
When the bell went off at 2:50 in Sister Godzilla's classroom. Markie darted for door...there was no time for idle chatter. Markie zigged and zagged in between the likes of Terry and Marilyn and Andrea and Theresa and "Ghering the Great" and Richard and Roberta with his mismatched shoes and raced home. His beloved beagle laid smack dab in the middle of the warm asphalt and cheerfully wagged her tail when she saw Markie rounding the corner and giving an abbreviated salute to the Blessed Virgin Mary in the Lennon Sister's front window.  

If Markie hurried, he could beat everyone home. There would be:
No Tony
No Karl
No Bob
No Kris
No Pinky
No Kurt
No Kleghorn
No Chewy
No Erick
No Charlie
No Four Eyes
No Queen of the World
No Karin and no Mrs. D.          He could have Irene all to himself.

Irene, had heroically and miraculously washed mountains of laundry...cleared one set of stairs, raked the living room and entry of its debris, made the Formica surface of the kitchen table visible, parted the red sea of newspapers, National Geographic magazines and the accumulated week's worth of clutter.

Mark saw the flag he hoisted earlier this morning (which reminded him to be on lookout for the rattlesnake that had escaped) and the foul-mouthed Mynah bird cussed at him when he walked in the front door. Markie shook his finger at the bird and said, "Shut up, you dirty bird." 

"Dirty bird. Dirty bird," the foul creature replied proudly. Mark tuned out the bird and listened for the singing.

Ears trained like radar, he had heard it up on the third floor.  He could hear the sweet melody of  "Swing Low" It was one of his and Irene's favorites. "Swing low, sweet chariot, coming for to carry me home." 

Rounding the third flight of stairs I could hear my beautiful Irene joyfully singing, “Well, I looked over Jordan and what did I see, coming for to carry me home? A band of angels coming after me, coming for to carry me home. Swing low, sweet chariot.” 

Feeling like a bird set free from its cage I bellowed, "I got-a wings, you got-a wings. All O' God's chillun got-a wings." I sang trying to overpower her - there'd be none of that. When I rounded the corner with my voice cracking, she dropped her broom and opened her arms like a mother bird welcoming a chick back to her nest. In I flew.  Her arms smothered me like the protecting wings of that mother bird. I was safe. It was Friday and for 20 minutes everything was all right in the world as I made contact with the elusive concept of love. 

She talked! I listened - though I couldn't understand a word she said, I laughed when she laughed at the end of her sentences - hoping my timing was right. 

Irene grabbed my hands... we danced like the Prince and Princess at a Royal Ball and she said..."You got-a wings child...you got-wings."   

Yep! For some reason - I got Irene and she got me. The Mynah bird squalked out profanities as we heard footsteps of the Wolf Pack returning home. I ran out back to finish the fort Tommy and I were working on. She finished her work...and took the bus back to Watts. This gives new meaning to acrostic; TGIF!
   
In the profound words of Dr. Seuss, in his deep theological dissertation "Horton Hears a Who," just because people are different or smaller than you remember what Horton learned, "A person is a person no matter how small."  

"It's Friday, but Sunday's Coming"















        



Saturday, June 29, 2013

"Oh no you didn't" BEWARE: THE RAGING PITBULL

This post is a continuation from the last one.

Markie D walked to his house just around the corner from his grammar school for lunch everyday. As the omega male of the Wolf Pack it was hard bumping elbows with the brood when the chaotic scramble happened every morning as the older boys scavenged for anything they could put in a lunch sack. With the fighting, the name calling and the pulling of hair, Markie decided it was best to stay under the radar and not even try to compete. By the time it came along for him to glean the kitchen for scraps there was nothing left over other than tainted milk, wilted celery, and the leftover something that had begun to grow green hair.  Opening the Tupperware lid on his ancient treasure, Mark gagged and almost threw up and then received a thump on the head by one of older guys. Other than that, the only thing edible that survived the ravages of the Wolf Pack was dry sourdough bread from the Pioneer day-old store. He wasn't about to pack a piece of dry bread, not when he could walk home and toast it!

And that's what he did. He lived on sourdough toast for lunch everyday.

But to his dismay, he discovered the terrifying newsflash that Chewbacca (a brother, who was 8 years older and like 12 feet taller) was home at that time from Santa Monica City College every Tuesday and Thursday. Chewbacca, in a moment of evil inspiration, had just invented a new form of torture that he affectionately termed a "Template." 

We left off last time, when Markie D had just woken up from his unconscious stuper after being knocked out and left on the floor in the cruel trick by his older brother. The runt of the litter, toasted his sourdough bread and happily staggered back to lunch recess with his blonde bangs swaying off his forehead (although he had plastered his hair earlier in his father's frugal concoction of sugar-water instead of hair gel).

Ironically, the poor little fella was a happy little soul - perhaps even, quite too happy for his circumstances. Though he thought of himself as special... like Joseph in the Bible... this designation "Special" may have been more in line with the way that word is used when thinking about "The Short Yellow Bus" - kind of "Special."

Markie had heard about the word love in Catechism and knew that the concept or idea of love was out there somewhere. He had never heard the "L" word  used in his family, but felt that it was out there to be discovered.  He desperately wanted to know what love was; what it felt like.. what it looked like and if a person could really experience this concept that he felt was so out of reach.

Last year, in 4th grade, when Mrs. McNellis was reading Charlotte's Web to the class (and fell asleep while reading) MARK DISCOVERED something amazing for the first time! GIRLS!

With something like 7 or 8 older brothers at home and with only two toilets in the house, you can image the dilemma. It meant there were desperate times when 4 or 5 of the boys had to pee in the toilet at the same time....if any went into the toilet, that was a miracle. Poor Markie had to squeeze in between a forest of legs, and being just about "po-po" height (compared to the guys who were 2 or more feet taller) -  he knew was a boy was. Hello, no problem with that one!

It took him this long, however, to figure that girls were different from boys... a different gender...a different species and he was suddenly intrigued as he looked across the 4th grade classroom (while the teacher had fallen asleep) and fell in love with Roberta.  Not the girls his house, but girls in the outside world were soft and cute and, well, different (maybe even nice) he imagined. He had tried his affections on Janet and hit her over the head with his book causing the little teeth in her hair barrette to draw blood. That relationship lasted about three hours when her parents got the phone call and Sister Superior and everyone started yelling at him.  

Roberta had the most beautiful, thick auburn hair and he was in love - whatever loved looked like to a 4th grader. Markie wasn't going to hit her over the head (that didn't work) yet other than that, he didn't know what to do, but to stare and daydream. Richard Stiman was a man of action....he told Roberta he liked her and Markie lost the girl of his dreams. By 5th grade Markie knew he had no chance with the girls, because there were guys who already had traces of hair on their upper lip, like Richard Arredondo. Hair on Markie's lip was about 25 years down the road. No chance with the girls meant, that Markie had no chance at discovering what this illusive thing called love - was all about. He was Mowgli, who was all alone in the jungle. 

(Enough of the back story) Whistling and staggering  his way back onto Saint Mark's School property holding  up his warm buttered sourdough toast as if it were a glorious trophy - symbolic of  enduring Chewbacca 's "Template of Brain Damage." 

This toasted bread was the envy of every 5th grader who had to chock down stale peanut and squished jelly sandwiches. His stock value suddenly increased...he was important for a minute. He liked the feeling of being liked. The boys in that corner of the schoolyard lined up and Markie granted one bite apiece. ONE BITE... Markie had not even had the chance to eat one-half of his toast yet and was reluctantly giving most of his prized possession away.
THEN CAME MICHAEL. Michael was at least a full head taller than Mark and probably twice his weight... Michael grabbed Markie's sourdough and shoved half it in his mouth to be mean and spiteful...

BAD! BAD! BAD Mistake! Michael might have outweighed Markie  D by 50-60 lbs... and had no idea that the little runt had to fight Ulrich and his Small Napoleons - like very day.  Bad choice bully Michael, this was just not your lucky day. 

Picture this. Pitbulls are cute and cuddly, quite friendly and about as unassuming as a beagle. Now image a police dog...a 135 pound German Shepherd. If that German Shepherd were to attack this 30 pound dog, your initial reaction is to feel sorry for the poor little fella. You root for the little guy - you (plural) feel sorry for the cute little thing.  

But when that little guy tightens the sinew of his muscle mass and his pupils pin-point, it's like a metamorphosis from Dr. Hyde to Mr. Jekyll takes place. And when that Pitbull sinks his teeth into the neck of that German Shepherd, suddenly you fell sorry for the poor, pathetic, self-assured German Shepherd who thought he was "All That!"

You might even be compelled to get a stick and beat the Pitbull off of the humbled-terrorist of a bully.

Do I need to say anything more - other than poor, big, self-assured, bully Michael, who though he was "All That," received more than he bargained for. 

It did take about two teachers and three kids to pull Markie off of the big bully...his ear got pinched by Sister Godzilla, as he was sent to the Principal's office to the cheers of admiring 5th graders.

Pray for Michael, but don't feel sorry for Markie...his stock value went up in school that day... and now maybe, he had a chance with the ladies and could find out what this thing called love was all about. 

Unbeknownst to him, the closest thing Markie would come touching love, to finding love and experiencing love...came every Friday with Irene. She was the cleaning lady from Watts who knew a thing or two about bullies, about prejudice, about enduring, and fully understood about glorious trophy of true love.


You may have heard that. “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but names will never hurt you!” 
Yeah, well… I think I would put it a different way, “Sticks and stones may break your bones – they will  heal, but names can hurt for a long time.” 
 
It was Tuesday and Markie would have to wait until Friday. Until then, he sang one of the songs Irene had taught him. 

Go Down Moses
Way down in Egypt Land
Tell old Pharaoh
To let my People Go
When Israel was in Egypt land
Let my people go
Oppressed so hard they could not stand
Let my people go
“Thus spoke the Lord,” bold Moses said
“If not, I’ll smite your first born dead..
Let my people go